Well, as follow up, I never ever got this working with the front page. I did end up using asp, and an access database to get this set up properly.
i think my few downfalls were these: (im hosting my own site off my win XP pro box with IIS 5.1)
1) i had to disable "simple file sharing" thru "my computer>tools>folder options>(scroll to the very bottom)>disable simple file sharing"
---now when right clicking on a file (such as the database), you can (have to) give the DB write permission, and make it non-read only"
I have it working for me now, not by using FP server extensitons, and their WEB BOTS, but through sending form results to an asp file to process it to the DB.
I also have an "admin"
page, with a table to list results from the DB, and to delete specific entries with a clcik of a link, should i desire.
If you all still have trouble, i will post the code for all of my files used.
(I consider that to be my biggest cause for failure of that task.
2) go to control panel>admin tools>OBDC connections, and set up the connection to your new database.
these should help get things going for you all.
Gary