Yeah, this problem bothered me for a bit as well when I had to do it. What you have to do is, find out the name of the relationship you want to delete, and then use the code: 'objDB.Relations.Delete (relationship name string)' to delete it. If you know the name of the relationship, it's ez, but since you are probably using access, than it probably automatically assigned it a relationship name, and that's where the trouble is.
I think this is the query that I used to find out all the relationship names of any give table in the DB, not totally sure:
SELECT MSysRelationships.szRelationship
FROM MSysRelationships
WHERE (((MSysRelationships.szReferencedObject)=[Table Name?]));
I hope this will help a bit, good luck!
-- Merlin