big one: replace database using CF app

[simmerdown]

I just ran smack into the wall of trying to update (replace, really) the live-on-the-server database ... of course, I get messages saying that the file is locked, since cf is using the db. I could go to the cfserver itself, stop service, replace the db, then restart it, but that's not very practical in my situation.

So my question is: what basic elements are needed to produce an upload/replace app?
I'd like it to be secure as well ...