A new twist on life at work
A new twist on life at work
A little history.
Recently our associate director was made director. This was due to our director of 30 years retiring. I have always thought of this person and myself as friends not just co workers. Through the years our families have done a lot of things away from work together. Talking about our spouses and kids is just what we have done for the last 25 years. But now things have changed.
Recently our CFO has told this person to promote me. This is their direct boss. I was asked to meet with this person to discuss what could be done for me. How going into a meeting to talk about a pay raise went from a joyous occasion to never feeling so belittled in my life, I still can't believe this actually happened.
My new director has paid her dues not only being here for about the same amount of time to also getting several degrees along the way. I understand that she dedicated a lot of time in doing this. Until now she has always had to do my upgrades in pay even though I have made more money than her until this point. Our meeting was one of the most horrible things I have ever gone though. I think part of it was that I considered this person a friend. Another part is that I have also paid my dues by doing whatever this company/department has asked of me and more. 365/7x24 for 24 years.
Our meeting was basically "I know I shouldn't hold an employee back, But Damn it, I had to get a degree" You should get training or initials behind your name. This went on and on. I sat in complete disbelief. I was also somewhat threatened that if I were to go to her boss, that the new position would have to be posted and they could possibly find someone "more qualified" than me to fill it. Later that day I got an email from her " I will continue looking into options" I think more of a CYA trail than anything.
Today I am (have been for a couple of months) doing what is necessary to prepare us for a major upgrade. I am doing my best to keep a positive attitude and trying to focus on what needs to be done. Although I still do whatever needs to be done (that's just me) and have friendly conversations with this person, it will never be the same. As an employee, I will do as I always done. My job and lots more.
But for the first time I do not really know where I stand or what to expect. I have a couple more years here and I can retire. Although I still love what I do and planned on working here another 10 if possible.
How should I handle this? If you can't tell, this is really bothering me and I would hate to leave here with so many years invested. Your thoughts would really be appreciated..
When is the last time you helped someone, just because you were able to?
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