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Help with a persistent recruiter

Help with a persistent recruiter

Help with a persistent recruiter

Hi all,

About two weeks ago had two very intense technical interviews, covering everything from SQL Server version 7.0 to version 2008.  After both interviews I had a very good feeling.  Those good feelings were not in vain, I received offers from both jobs.  After a lot of thinking and soul searching I decided to take the lesser paying job (better growth opportunity).  The recruiter for the position I did not select will not leave me alone now. She keeps trying to convince me that I am making a mistake, even to the point of talking down about the company I decided to join.  I am looking for a nice way to tell her to leave me alone without burning any bridges.  Can anyone help?

Well Done is better than well said
- Ben Franklin

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

I would probably stop answering the phone when I saw their number pop up.

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

When Rochelle Recuiter calls you next time just say...

Quote (Nice):

Hi, Rochelle. Thanks again for introducing me to (Second-place Company). I appreciate your follow-up.

As I've mentioned to you before, I chose (First-place Company) for a combination of many factors. Each time you call to encourage me to recind my acceptance of the position with (First-place Company), it puts me in an uncomfortable position for several reasons:
  • You are, in essence, either calling into question my judgement, or you are suggesting that I am ignorant of information which you presume I don't have.
  • You suggested that although I have committed to (First-place Company) to come work for them, that I should break my word, despite your knowing that my word is my bond, and my integrity is one of my most valued qualities as a professional.
  • If you represented both (First-place Company) and (Second-place Company), would you diminish the reputation of (First-place Company) as you have to me?
All of these issues place our relationship at risk. I don't want to risk our relationship because I value your friendship and the work you have done in my behalf.
(Then just let Rochelle respond.)

(aka Dave of Sandy, Utah, USA)
[I provide low-cost, remote Database Administration services: www.dasages.com]
"Beware of those that seek to protect you from harm or risk. The cost will be your freedoms and your liberty."

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

i concur with Santa...

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

I think I will put what Santa say in an email format and send it to her. She emailed me again last night.  So I will reply with this wonderfully thought out response.


Well Done is better than well said
- Ben Franklin

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

add in that all you have in this world is your word and your b4lls and you dont break them for anyone!

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

You know, in this economy some people might consider this question as bragging.

I'm just sayin'...

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RE: Help with a persistent recruiter


Send the recruiter my way.  I could use a good paying job.  lol


Just my 2¢

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RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

Recruiters only call you when you aren't looking for a job.

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

Quote (hinesward):

Recruiters only call you when you aren't looking for a job.

And then send you for jobs you:

a) don't want or
b) are not qualified for.

How many times have you been sent details of a job calling for a particular discipline when the recruiter knows that you do not have that skill-set?

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

Yeah, it like that old saying that the bank only lends money to those who can afford it.  Recuiters only seem interested when you're not available.  

I don't think I'd go into all that detail about your choice with her.  Odds are she won't even be around in a few months.  Unprofessional behavior smacking of desparation.

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

Santa, I couldn't have said it better. Nicely put.

RE: Help with a persistent recruiter

Thanks everyone for all your input.  The issue was resolved and I've started working at the first-place company (as Santa said) last week.  After a few emails back and forth she finally got it and left me alone. Also for the statement about me bragging, I don't think I was. It was just me sharing my experience with my job hunt/interviews and very strange recruiter. But if anyone took it the wrong way I must apologies.

Thanks All

Well Done is better than well said
- Ben Franklin

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