It's been my experience that this will be controlled via a jumper on the mother-board. Use Karl's instructions to locate the specific jumper, but if that fails, you may just luck out by finding the slot bracket with the 15 pin video connector, and trace it back to the header on the m-bd that it is plugged into. Usually, the jumper is in close proximity to the VGA feature header.
Once you get it turned off, leave it so. Most on-board video setups use a pooled memory, meaning that it will use some of your RAM for video memory. So if you have 64 MB installed, but Windows reports only having 60, your on-board video adapter has taken that other 4MB before windows loads.
Hope this helps!!!
Tom Whitehead
twhitehead@commeq.com