The node ip is what your phones point to, under normal operating the signalling server answers the node ip and the ip phones register to it, if however the ss fails, the VGMC will recognize that the ss is down and will take over answering the node ip, the phones will then register to the vgmc, hence you dont point the ip phones at the ss or vgmc, but to the node ip, and the failover works. As far as QOS, it should probably be on the rtp streams, they are going to go to the ip of the vgmc.
JB