Hi retireing,
Are you sure you specified that the spreadsheet should be a "link" and not just a paste? Try doing it again, this time making sure you verify the link:
1. Open Word
2. Insert menu | Object | Create from File
3. Browse to file
4. Click on Insert
5. Put a checkmark in "Link to file"
6. OK
Now you should have enabled Link commands on the Edit menu in Word.
Good Luck,
BlueHorizon