Like I said in my first response, some routers simply cannot handle a VPN...like my SMC Barricade (2804 I think?). It completely locked up, all ports dead, and had to be rebooted to get it to work again briefly, until I tried to connect via VPN. The correct ports were open, it just choked on the connection.
I just happened to have a D-Link 804HV sitting around and it makes a wonderful VPN router, I use it with a WAP for wireless duties. If you can find a VPN router that works you can then connect the Netgear as a wireless access point (for non-VPN traffic), just set the VPN router to be DHCP server and shut the Netgear's DHCP off.
My recommendation...get a router locally that you can return if it does not work.
Tony
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