Snyderj,
Thanks for the response. I ended up having to uninstall the Secondary site server and the RESET the primary site server. That seemed to clean things up and allowed me to connect to my remote SQL DB. Lastly I reinstalled the secondary site server from the Admin console of the primary server, it took awhile, but finally came up and now it all seems to work.
Before I had tried to install the admin console on the secondary site server box, and somehow that created a lot of issues, and then neither that console of the console on the primary server would connect to the DB. Strange!
Thanks for your comments though.