Sorry, I meant to look in "/etc/init.d/xinetd", the startup script, to find out where your config files might be hiding.
Now that I think about it, editing "services" might be sufficient. Let me know if my understanding of xinetd is too hazy:
xinetd will load daemons on demand. (I've used this to have special monitoring programs launch when a telnet session is started on a particular port.) The "services" file works with the xinetd.d config file to map what program runs when a connection is made.
1. A request comes in on port 79.
2. services maps port 79 to "finger"
3. xinetd has an entry for "service finger", and follows those instructions.
So, if there's no "services" entry, there's no mapping, right?
Maybe I made it too complicated and should have stuck to the original question: restart xinetd via "/etc/init.d/xinetd restart"