Hi,
We use GFI MailEssentials. It will allow you to block e-mail from a domain, so you could in essence block your own domain, but that would be no good if you had external users with POP accounts, sending e-mail through a different mailserver - for example if their ISP only allows them to send e-mail using the ISP mailserver.
Otherwise in relation to RBL, it has the option to send or not to send NDR's.
I read something recently that suggested that blocking based on RBLs was no longer an effective method to combat SPAM as the lifetime of the spamming domain was on average four hours or less? (Might be an incorrect reccolection though).
Not trying to be a sales rep, but we are quite happy with GFI. They have multiple filters and between them we get little spam and few false positives. The fact that it logs all e-mail sent and received has been particularly useful in settling some minor disputes whereby external sources claim to have sent us e-mail, when in fact they never did, or they sent it to the incorrect addresses etc.
Cheers.