I cant believe your computer is even still running without protection!! You must use the net very very seldom.
As for your processes you mentioned, you are fine. Sometimes malware\virus\ and especially trojans will show up in task manager as a name, could be any name, last one i had was called "up2dat5", which was a trojan. I had one a while back that was similar to iexplorer and it was hell to get rid of. Anyway,some, not all, but some of these you will see taking 80% or more of you system resources. You reported only 3 taking up usage, idle means that amount is free, so its kind of a reverse reporting. Idle of 80% means that only 20% is being used. The other 2 you mentioned are supposed to be there, task manager itself is reporting its own usage, and explorer, well, its explorer, integral part of windows, so you are ok there.
In future, if you have probs, go to task manager and see what files or programs are using your computer. When you see idle at 80% or above, odds are you are in good shape there at least.
I do strongly suggest you install the free antivirus that you can get at avg antivirus. Also the free firewall at zone alarm, you can google these both, again, free!
You can google all the others i mentioned as well.
You should have most or all of them to go on the net. Even that doesnt guarantee safety but as it is now its like you are in Iraq with no machine gun, no pistol, no camouflage, not even boots, lol!
Its a miracle you can even boot up.
As for the other issue, the section you mentioned, or the setting you mentioned, you are right, thats the place. You can go in there and set your mode. There may be an auto setting, depends on your bios and they vary.
If you want, just report what you see when you click on that setting you mentioned and we can advise which way to go on that. ECP DMA sel - sel is for select, so thats the place for sure.
You may have to both select it in there and perhaps even go to device mgr and set each ide channel to auto or to dma if available, whichever works.
Bear in mind that hard drives may accept one setting and optical drives another setting, just the nature of the beasts is all, nothing wrong with you or your computer.
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